
I want to start by giving credit where it is due and noting that this blog was inspired by The Courageous Coach podcast episode by Melissa Hague and featuring someone I am lucky enough to get to work with on a regular basis on the Leadership Development Network – Donna Ward Higgs
It got me thinking about what it means to be courageous or brave and how this manifests itself in different people. Donna has a great way with words and she described it as (and I’m paraphrasing here) that she didn’t have to see the whole staircase to take the first step.
I spend a lot of my time working in the Diversity space and it feels like that metaphor fits beautifully here. This is an area where there is a need to be brave and have difficult conversations around challenging bias – you can’t truly have an inclusive workplace. There is never a perfect moment to start the work – you’ll never truly have all your ducks in a row or have done all the analysis you need to. Sometimes you just need to start and maybe that is being courageous in itself.
Donna also talked about making more intentional choices which is something I spend a lot of time talking about. The more habitual choices are the easy ones – they are quick, they are the ones we don’t need to think about. However, newsflash these aren’t always the best choices. Intentional choices are where we access our thinking brain and consider what does this look like and what is my best course of action here. And that’s brave because then we have to live and own our consequences whatever they may be. And if it doesn’t go as well as we hoped well that’s okay too – no one’s perfect.
Regular readers will know that my devotion to stats is only surpassed by a football team who play in red. Paul Scholes has recently described Man Utd’s captain Bruno Fernandes as a high percentage player – he will take that risk, that chance and it doesn’t always come off but he makes things happen. In a world where we worry about doing the right thing or feel we need to know everything, shouldn’t we all be a bit more Bruno?
It’s worth considering the rippling effect of bring brave best summed up by Malala Yousafzai in her speech to the UN:
“So here I stand, one girl, among many. I speak not for myself, but so those without a voice can be heard.”
I think what Malala is alluding to here is that someone needs to start the conversation – almost like the Starfish Story where the difference is being made to one starfish at a time.
It is about support through amplification or in the Diversity space it is about being an upstander. In Radical Respect Kim Scott talks about the impact of having a room of upstanders rather than just one – it changes the whole conversation. By being brave and courageous we encourage others to do the same.
So what stops us being brave?
There’s a great line in the book ‘To Kill a Mockingbird’ by Harper Lee:
“But it was a time of vague optimism for some of the people: Maycomb County had recently been told that it has nothing to fear but fear itself.”
The thought of getting it wrong, stepping outside the conventional norms can hold us back.
In addition the prospect of having those difficult conversations I mentioned earlier can be overwhelming. In the CIPD Good Work Guide 2024 the top way in which people try to resolve conflict is by letting it go. Again – there is another newsflash here – nothing ever got any better because we didn’t do anything about it…In fact it usually gets worse as it festers and when we do have that conversation we go in too hard or what I refer to as too fierce.
So how do we get braver and more courageous?
Well I have one idea to start – this week I attended a session of the HR Confidence Club hosted by Sasi Venables with a session led by Dr Mark Deeks who was talking about using music to improve our wellbeing and considering what music evokes what mood in us. With this in mind I have been thinking about my brave music – what makes me feel invincible. Well it is ‘The Whole of the Moon’ by The Waterboys – there is something about the beat, the rhythm and the way the music swells that makes me feel unstoppable. Perhaps I’ll recommend it to Rueben Amorim for the Europa League final next week!
Ultimately it is about remembering that being brave and courageous comes in lots of different shapes and sizes and even the smallest step is a big achievement.
And why the picture of the red shoes? Well if you know me you’ll be aware that my dress style is very black and white – more about conforming than standing out. I saw these and thought why not as Jane Hodgson encouraged me to think about a while back ‘What is the best that can happen?’ I’m hoping for an exciting adventure with a tin man, a lion and a scarecrow – what about you?
References:
- CIPD Good Work Index 2024
- Harper Lee To Kill a Mockingbird
- Kim Scott Radical Respect
- International Business Times Malala Yousafzai’s Speech To UN
- The Courageous Coach Podcast with Melissa Hague featuring Donna – Ward Higgs
- The Starfish Story Video
- The Waterboys The Whole of the Moon








